When you’ve been waiting for so long there is an opportunity to compromise. Some times when we wait so long, we end up being with any type of person. We feel like God is taking too long. Some of us even tell God, “You’re not going to come through. I am going to just date him even though he’s not saved. I am going to go out with him, even though he compromises. I am going to marry him even though he doesn’t have my best interest at heart. I am tired of being single and God you are taking too long for me.”
When you get to that point watch out because you may just compromise your faith and your relationship with God. Some people after waiting for so long and when it seems like it will never come, accept standards that are lower than is desirable. That is what compromise means; accepting something that is lower in standard.
You’ve waited this long why end up with someone that is lower in standard and doesn’t fit you and the life God has for you?
I want to encourage you and tell you that God has someone better for you. He has someone that will not cause you to fall or compromise your walk with Christ. Why accept something lower? Why even put yourself through the heart break and the pain that is sure to come when we accept something that God doesn’t accept?
To avoid that and to stay on course until God sends the RIGHT one you’ve been praying for, here are five ways on how to not compromise or to at least stop you from compromising when dating.
5 Ways To Not Compromise As You Wait And Date
Write Down God’s Set Rules And Standards When It Comes To Waiting, Dating, And Marriage.
God says to not be unequally. He also mentions to not fornicate. Study what God says and write those scriptures down. Read them daily. Reading them daily and meditating on those words from God will cause you to not forget if at any point the person you are with wants you to compromise. When you’re dating and when that person wants you to compromise, you will recall God’s rules and standards and not go against them.
Know Who You Are and Recite It
God also tells you who you are repeatedly again in His word. Write these things down. Remind yourself daily so that when the time comes, you won’t be so quick to compromise because you know who you are and whose you are.
Remember the movie, “The Help”? She would constantly have the little girl reaffirm herself with, ‘You is smart, You is kind, You is important.’ You may need to do the same thing for yourself. There is power in confessing the words of God over your life. You need to write down who you are. For example: I am a child of God. I am a virtuous woman. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I will not be unequally yoked. I will not fornicate. Proverbs 31:10-31 is a great place in knowing who you are. You are a Proverbs 31 woman!
Chose the Right Man At The Start
Before you even date set in your mind that if He doesn’t go to church every Sunday, if there are things that go against God’s word, or anything that isn’t of God, then don’t be with that person. If you decide to be with that person, you will end up compromising and you may even fall into sin. Choose the right person who is also standing on God’s word and refuses to compromise.
Stay In God’s Presence and Be Prayerful
Being in God’s presence and staying prayerful really keeps you. Psalms 91:1-2 says, He who dwells in the secret place of the most high shall abide under the shadow of the almighty and I will say of the Lord He is my refuge, my fortress, my God, in Him will I trust. When you stay in God’s presence you will be sure to not compromise your walk with Christ. It’s only when you’re out of His presence you end up compromising. I’m sure the character in, God Send Me My Husband, wishes she had listened to this point.
Stay In The Hedge of Protection That Is Set Before You
Lately, I’ve been studying Ruth and the one part that stays with me comes from Ruth 2:8-9. Boaz tells Ruth to not glean in another field.
So Boaz said to Ruth, “My daughter, listen to me. Don’t go and glean in another field and don’t go away from here. Stay here with the women who work for me. Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the women. I have told the men not to lay a hand on you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled.”
Boaz was telling her to stay in this hedge of protection. If she went outside of the field, something may have happened to her. Someone could have raped her, beaten, or worse… murdered her if she gleaned in another field outside of Boaz’s field. This is the same principal with God. He has placed a hedge of protection around you to keep you safe. He is not doing it to hold the thing you want from you. No, God has that hedge around you so you won’t end up hurt, in pain, broken, or even dead. In the last couple of years there have been several women who’ve left the hedge of protection and they are now dead.
This here is an important part you have to learn. Stay and glean in God’s field it is there to protect you and there so you can meet Boaz just like Ruth did.
Do Not Compromise
I know the wait may be long but remember, do not compromise. Choose your dates and the men you see carefully. Listen to the red flags that God is sending. Discern. Follow the leading and the prompting of the Holy Spirit. Stay in His presence and in the word of God. All of this will help you to not compromise. All of this will get you to the one God has for you without being broken, hurt, in pain, or even worse… dead.